Judy Sharp*, a 61-year-old woman from Brisbane, shares a story of survival and strength that she hopes will inspire others facing the shadow of domestic abuse.
*VIDEO CAN BE FOUND AT THE FOOTER OF THIS ARTICLE*
The Weekly Bouquet That Never Felt Like Love
Every Friday, without fail, Judy’s husband Mick brought home a bunch of tulips. She accepted them with a polite, forced smile: “Thank you, they’re lovely.” But the flowers were not the sign of affection they appeared to be. They were the beginning of control masked as care—52 weeks a year.
Behind the pastel gift lay something far darker: jealousy, surveillance, and ultimatums that Judy didn’t understand at the time. He told her he “wasn’t ready for this kind of life” and directed her out of the house just weeks after their twins were born, forcing her into homelessness and survival.
The Subtle Signs of Control
Mick’s control didn’t stop with the tulips. He forced Judy to conform to his narrative of loyalty and fear. He suspected her of infidelity, installing sticky tape across the front and back doors so he could check every morning if the seal was broken. He controlled finances, insisted she had nowhere to go, and demeaned her as a mother in front of their young boys.
This pattern aligns with documented forms of domestic and family violence in Australia, where power and control are fundamental.
According to the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare (AIHW), about 1 in 4 women (23%) and 1 in 14 men (7%) have experienced physical and/or sexual violence by an intimate partner since age 15.
The Moment Everything Fell Apart
